bombardier: Isn't stopping normalization of rape actually saving the real children?
milkymylk: This is a complicated topic and I don't really have time to get into detail, but I'll do my best to keep it short:
Firstly, that is tragic. Not just that it happened to that poor girl, but that your acquaintance is in such an unhealthy mental state.
However, stopping the normalization of rape begins through education of the young and better support systems for people with mental health issues and keeping with punishments when real people are harmed, not through banning
fictional content for adults.
Remember, we're talking about games for adults, with content and settings that aren't real. Children and teenagers should not be getting their hands on this content. And if they are, that's the
parent's responsibility to make sure they're not - not a store's, the government's, or anyone else's responsibility.
So... if children aren't seeing violent content, and people are being taught by society "we don't harm others," "rape/violence has these effects on people, and that's not a good thing," calling out demeaning behavior towards others, and donating to charities and foundations that actually provide services many of us cannot... Any single part of that list will actually do more for society than banning fictional content for adults.
If adults cannot tell the difference between reality and fiction, so much that they're affected by what they read/see, then they need to talk to others about it - friends, family, and/or a mental health professional. It's a mental health issue in those cases - because normal, healthy, well-adjusted people do not confuse the two.
Remember that this is separate to personal feelings on the matter! You can be outraged about certain content all you want. But that doesn't mean it should be illegal or censored, when no real people were hurt.
The other problem with calling for bans is... it will never end, once you start banning one type of fiction, someone else will want more added to the list, even stuff you have no issue with. Think of your own favorite fictional media, and how it would feel if someone called for it to get banned. I'm not even talking extreme content here - think of the 90s and "violent games create violent people" argument, or back when showing anything over the ankle on women was considered "pornographic" and worthy of censorship.
The demarcation between what is real and what is fiction is purely subjective because our connection to what is real is a matter of perception, so it is not nearly as cut and dried as you seem to think it is. Whatever a person does the most will become the easiest thing for that person to do, eventually reaching a point where conscious volition will no longer be required, and their perception of reality will be skewed as a result.
I'm not advocating for banning content that can be deemed obscene, only that it be described accurately enough so that those who are likely to be offended are warned in advance. Saying that it is "mature" or "adult" is insufficient because that is a very broad category, and people who are offended by content that depicts rape aren't necessarily offended by nudity, sex, or violence.