Posted November 21, 2017
AlienMind: You are not alone in this. Furthermore I find it preposterous that it's expected from the man to work dangerous jobs, not seeing the kid he loves, while it's seen as normal that the woman gets to be with the kid she loves.
This is still largely the case in marriage, and even translated by courts outside of marriages, where females automatically get child, because.. I don't know, maybe men are automatically pedophiles or something, at least this is the viewing angle if a man wants to become kindergardener.
It makes sense to me that the primary care giver when parties are married (whether that is the man or the woman) continues to be the primary care giver when the parties are separated. What doesn't make sense to me is why men don't challenge the idea that the woman should stay at home and look after the kids and the men should continue to work. This is still largely the case in marriage, and even translated by courts outside of marriages, where females automatically get child, because.. I don't know, maybe men are automatically pedophiles or something, at least this is the viewing angle if a man wants to become kindergardener.
Working kind of sucks. Staying home and looking after kids is a much easier job - particularly when you see all these women sitting at cafes with their babies having coffees, etc, while their husbands are out working hard, making the money that allows them to live that lifestyle. But the guys I speak to about it seem content with it. I don't understand it. I would love to live in a world where men are just as likely to be the primary care givers of children in a relationship as women, and women are just as likely to be the sole income earners for the family as men, but there needs to be some big changes before that will happen.