Posted October 03, 2018
MartiusR: [...]
Sad thing is, that I think that I was finally capable of feeling more "compassion" and understanding for his lacks, long after I've completely lost contact with this person. Partially because I had time to consider what has happened back then and that it was bad, but still, it's all "after the fact".
Thank you for elaborating more. Sad thing is, that I think that I was finally capable of feeling more "compassion" and understanding for his lacks, long after I've completely lost contact with this person. Partially because I had time to consider what has happened back then and that it was bad, but still, it's all "after the fact".
Like I said I'm not condemning you (after all I didn't fare any better in my "trials" involving such encounters). :)
Unfortunately, such clarity often comes when the tie to act has long since gone.
I've often had "inner debates" with myself about things I should have done differently, even if they were completely unimportant and any other involved party completely forgot they ever happened.
Most often such reflections will do no more than make you feel down.
I'm no stranger to shyness either.
It's easier if I'm with someone I know, then I can be distracted by the known person and thus animated, but if I'm on my own it often takes a couple minutes of courage gathering before I work up the nerve to talk to a stranger (having strategically chosen a moment when they're not occupied and having thoroughly "rehearsed" what I'm going to say in my head beforehand).
If I'm out on a walk alone, I'll keep a score of how many pets I've managed to greet since I won't talk to people (sometimes it's quite an art pulling it off without alerting their owners) - we're talking about a simple "hi" here, I won't engage a pet with physical touch without the owner's permission since they know the animal and will let me know if it's fond of such attention or not. XD