Is it even cheating when he's just a boy toy?

No, it's okay. This is no venom. Rather, the voice of reason, of sorts. I wish, i really do, i could follow your advice. But having done just that in the past, scarred me and ruined me; which is; "go find a nice girl who doesn't have everything to lose by being with you, and then build something with her". They ate me for breakfast and abused me so hard, those seemingly "nice" girls, that it is a miracle i preserved my marbles in one piece and one place. I don't believe in anything, anymore. I simply try to get opportunities and deceive myself that i am having fun. Well, even though it is twisted as a statement, even under those circumstances, i do have fun. Because i do not have a choice. The only thing i cannot get over, is being attached easily to someone and being sentimental. I could never do the regular guys' thing; which is to vanish forever after one quick, even to a deserving partner. I always have to get stuck and worry and like and try to be with the other one. I am not a total bastard, at least...

You remember, but neither the details, nor the point. And certainly not the outcome. In one case, i was fed up because i realized something hyped wasn't half as good or worth to try, as some people think. The other one, was a moral dilemma. Which i presented, took into consideration the points made in conversation and finally decided to stay away.

It's funny though. If you believe i am trolling, ok with me, i don't need to prove anything. Wouldn't i have more interesting things to do, other than trying to find a gift for an "imaginary" someone that "doesn't exist" and i am simply trolling? And where's the classy in either trolling, or in trolling along those lines?!?

About phone, no thanks. I never give it out. And it would cost a fortune to connect over there, regardless.

But of course! Great idea!? Not physical gift *ergo no traces* and a good one, too! 5star hotel and/or dinner! Awesome! Imagine that in the past, i even worked in such a place, and it did not even cross my mind, i am so green!! Up to now, we frequented only shady love hotels (like Priamos), it would be an interesting change (although i kinda fear the I.D. checking and it would be a disaster if they asked for or registered hers, too).

Bad attitude, no matter what happened in your past. You should mind her children and stop it before more harm is done. It's your responsibility, you've got a choice, they don't.

Whatever you do, be careful. Tallima made some good points in his post so think again before you do anything.

If nobody is manning the wheel, then the rudder is unable to steer. If the rudder cannot steer, the ship will go where it goes.

You do have a choice. You have many choices.

Not being a dick about one-night stands is not a ticket to destroy people. Nor does possessing emotions.

Perhaps you started with a bad assumption. All relationships end up being crap. It's the one that ends up as less crap that strengthens and becomes a strong bond of family. You don't want to fall victim to a fallacy and believe that all healthy relationships are crap. Because the rough parts of a healthy relationship are good, too.

I'm sure I can't convince you one way or the other about anything, but I hope that when the world comes tumbling down for you that the pain isn't unbearable for all of the parties involved. It's a false hope, though. You'll likely get away feeling the least amount of pain and the rest of the family will feel like they've been shot in the chest for the next 20 years.

The deed is done, but I hope you begin to make choices for your life soon.

Printers are so passé nowadays.

How about a keychain?
There are many different around nowadays from geeky to practical to just pretty. It would be something she could carry around and nobody would think anything of it.

I cannot believe we are still discussing this. :P

Are you fucking serious?

I would say no, don't buy her anything.

I myself have been involved with married women, and while it involved some of the best "all things" I've encountered, we eventually just drifted apart. Fun while it lasted. But it didn't last, and I doubt any of us expected or wanted it to.

Yes, I'm serious, and don't call me Shirley.

Sounds to me that not only is he fucking serious but that he is in fact literally fucking serious.

Good post. Damn good post.