Why is masculinity a phobia itself? There are all kinds of masculinity, as many as femininities. Toxic femininities and toxic masculinities make all people suffer. I understand that both can become something dreadful. But there are lovely and encouraging femininities and masculinities out there. Change "Masculinity" by "Toxic masculinity". By grouping all masculinities as toxic you are being sexist, you are becoming that which you wanted to destroy.