Problem: my 4g speed become dial up level if i doenload ANYTHING not directly to my phone.

Question: why can i not DL a approx 6 gig game to my phone directly and just upload it from the phone to laptop? Literally I can find no reason i cant, but then again im not tech savvy

Have you tried downloading offline back up on the mobile phone desktop site?

What type of phone, and how much storage do you have, and where are you downloading to?

My phone refuses to treat my external microSD as anything other than ROM, so i need to copy files on it separately before plugging it in.

Depending on the app, it may refuse filetypes it doesn't know (thus .001 .002 are not known file types).

It may also decide that if you don't have enough internal storage it may just fail the download immediately rather than attempt and waste space/power/bandwidth.

Lastly in Android at least, you have to give storage permissions to the browser or program in order to download, namely because it will try to put it in the 'Downloads' directory that's not native to the program.

Most of android uses FAT32 for memory cards. While you can download an app from something like the play store, that allows NTSF and ExFAT. You normally have to pay for those.

If you do use a browser however, make sure you don't have anything else open. Also make sure to wait for the title to fully finish downloading. Otherwise android has a tendency to crash or wipe the RAM to use in whatever you change apps to.

Naturally I am not referring to a $1000 gaming phone with 16gb of RAM. The average piece of crap, has one or two gigs.

Lucky for android users, that GOG packs offline games into under 4gb files. Because even in 2022, people have mainstream memory devices that cannot go over that 4GB limit.

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If you have need for more information about getting around this for other files. You can also use an archive program such as 7z. The program zips and unzips all common archival files, as well as being able to chop up a single large file and put it onto a sdcard or memory stick and after you transfer it over to a machine that can handle large single files, you have 7z on that as well to put it all back together.