Hmmm, I see we're taking this to a more personal level. Indeed, I both welcome that
and am slightly suspicious of it. Perceptive of you.
I admit I didn't perceive admiration as praise on your earlier statement, rather admiration as surprise. In my defense, I have often told you I find it hard to understand you. More importantly, I have experience with being banned and mobbed online and those experiences do not make me paranoid, but certainly contribute to suspicion.
The fact we will not agree is why I want to talk more. I'm curious like that. I don't want the disagreements to be made explicit in order to beat you up on it, arguing about things is to me a process of discovery and understanding as long as the participants tolerate and respect each other.
So, on Social Justice. I have half jokingly (so kind of seriously) said sometime past, somewhere around here that I am a SJW. But the Social Justice I fight for is different than the Social Justice others fight for. My social justice is rather meritocratic, individualist, tolerant, pacifist. The other social justice is entitled, communist, intolerant, aggressive. Obviously those others will disagree with me about the descriptors, call me elitist, selfish, amoral, passive... which is tolerable... and I have no problem admitting that both social justices are justified on the basis of all the great human ideas: they both are for freedom, for justice, for love, etc... I think I can argue effectively and logically why I'm right, and I admire and desire others that believe the same of their ethical beliefs and engage me. The problem of course, and it's a perfect example of the dynamic I mentioned earlier, is that if I go most places online and say I believe journalism should be objective, or I believe capitalism is moral, I will not just be ridiculed, I will be attacked personally. The first is fine and I can mostly handle it, unsavory as it is and inconsiderate of more fragile egos, the second is to me never acceptable.
On to cultural relativism. My point is maybe subtle, but fundamental, and I think you are still kind of missing it. To me cultural relativism is the belief all cultures are ethically equivalent. I absolutely do not believe that at one level while believing it at a lower level. As I understand the intent of someone accusing me (it's fine to accuse, but listen to the denial please) of cultural relativism, the point they are making, the point you are making, is that I
should not respect barbaric cultural practices, and
should actively try to stop them. I understand this, I disagree with this, and yet I don't see that as my being cultural relativist.
So, explicitly already I used the word barbaric a few times. This in itself should be proof that I don't see all cultures as ethically equivalent. I don't use the word barbaric to imply technological backwardness - I use it here precisely to indicate my ethical disapproval. Words have meanings (even if multiple and fuzzy), and there is an objective reality they refer to. This is exactly my beef with disingenuous statements of the kind: you are not Xist, but your statements are. Maybe the people saying that believe it, but it is to me a delusional and largely illogical belief.
So that's the proof I'm not a cultural relativist. Now the other side of the coin. I do believe all humans are ethically equal: male or female, young or old, black or white... make up whatever natural or artificial dichotomies you want, doesn't matter. This fundamental belief in human equality comes with associated implications to human agency and responsibility. Humans join up, and mostly by accident cultural habits originate and perpetuate. A priori, they are equivalent. I don't see this as cultural relativism at all, this is simple humanism, or whatever word you have for it.
So, no, I don't think it is morally good that a mother mutilates their daughters. I also don't think abortion, suicide, self-mutilation, alcoholism are morally good. But for all of these, I likewise don't think it's morally good to usurp the agency of the people doing what I think are moral mistakes. Which means depending on the specific situations, what we have is
always a choice between evils. You can call that original sin if you want, though I'm so much a lapsed catholic that it isn't even funny how often I find this stuff parallels my upbringing.
Closing the loop and highlighting how the two topics SJW and FGM converge. My problem is not with people that choose the evil of interfering over the evil of acceptance. It is with people that interfere, while blind that in their usurpation of power they have done evil. I am exaggerating somewhat by the way. There are ways of interfering which are not evil at all, similar to the kind of non-coercive arguments we are choosing to continue. Nothing evil about that.
Another issue I have is with people that believe their choice is the only correct one. I tolerate people that want to forcefully stop FGM. In fact, I am very close to not having to tolerate it, because if given the power I would very likely forcefully stop it, no matter how corrupting that would be to myself. In practice I also tolerate people that perform FGM, and understand they think what they are doing is good, despite my disagreeing.
Bottom line. Your moral certainty is something I both envy and am repulsed by. If you absolutely believe you and your brother, if born in this other culture, would hold similar moral beliefs to what you hold today... well, I think you're wrong. That's the thing you see. I hold to my moral certainties, while tolerating others. Tolerating does not mean I like it, or think it's right. I don't need to tolerate what I like and think is right... what would be the point of that? It would be like tears in the rain.