To the original poster, I highly highly recommend you play the games on your own. You have them, so give them a shot.
No matter where you look, there seems to be no middle ground with the EEs. Some places you'll find people who love and adore it, and very few people who hate it. Other places (like here - not that that's a bad thing, everyone is entitled to their opinion) you'll find the complete opposite, where people hate them, and very few seem to enjoy them.
In both cases, people tend to make good points, and then there are also people who do whatever they can to make their opinion seem like the right one.
Welcome to the internet, I suppose.
In my opinion - The EEs are a blast. I've been playing them since ~2014, and never once experienced any bugs. Honestly - I've read a lot of people mention bugs in this thread, but I've yet to see any of them. The only thing I can deduce is perhaps some faulty installations, or something like that? No idea, but I haven't seen anything like disappearing items or continuous crashes.
I also think the new characters are great, too. Rasaad is a little lame, but Neera and Dorn are really fun characters, and Neera quickly became one of my favourite NPCs of the games. Baeloth is a fun little easter egg character, and Wilson is a bear. A BEAR. Granted, he's not the best companion, given the heavy focus on proper equipment and magic in BG2, but that's nothing a little modding can't fix. ;)
SoD is also a pretty good story, imho. Not the best story in the world (disclaimer - I also don't think the original BG storyline is the best), but fun nonetheless, and it serves as a good connector between the two games, rather than "lol you're in Athkatla now have fun." I think it also does a good job of fleshing out some of the more bland characters from BG1, like Safana. Beyond a few voiced lines (which every NPC has) she didn't have much of a personality in BG1, and SoD kind of solved that. If you don't own it, I high recommend picking it up if you get the chance, to at least form your own opinion on it. Personally, I don't consider a full playthrough complete unless I include SoD. I consider it the ToB of BG1.
As for the graphics, I was only a young kid when the originals were out, so my only memories of them are from watching my dad play them on our old Windows 95 desktop with a monitor that was probably heavier than me. I think the graphics of the EEs are fine, and do a good job of retaining a bit of a classic look, while also not looking too modern.
Overall, I highly, highly recommend the EEs. They're still the original games, with some upgrades and a couple new characters. I really don't see what there is to hate about them, but to each their own. That being said, I really think you should give them a shot. Forget about everything you've heard about them (including my own opinions) and form your own opinion. If you don't enjoy your time, that's fine. If you love them, that's fine as well. At the end of the day, they're games, and games are for having fun, right?