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HereForTheBeer: Just got back from the UW vet. The KittyCATscan showed a couple questionable spots, one on each lung. <sigh> And that's in addition to the major tumor outside his chest cavity. Been through lung cancer with Dad earlier this year (it was really quick), my stepdad last year (drawn out over about a year), and a family friend, also earlier this year.

And now Oscar.

Well, shit.

Told them that we'll take the palliative route - we're not going to put him through crazy medical efforts when it might gain him but 3-6 more months, and probably not the best of months at that. For now we'll continue to spoil the hell out of him.
I'm so sorry to hear that. That's really tough.
You mentioned that he doesn't seem bothered by it. I hope that is still the case, and continues to be.

It sounds like he has a really great home with some outstanding slaves. You can't ask for much more than that.
I always took comfort in the fact that we were able to give our kitty a good home and lots of love while she was with us. I think she appreciated it.

I don't know what else to say...
I hope things aren't too painful for the both of you, and that you can have some happy times together.
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AgentBirdnest: <snip>
Thanks for the kind words.

This isn't our first time dealing with this crap, so in some ways it's easier than with some of our other pets. And we only got him last January but he has firmly placed himself at the top of the food chain around here - such a great, mellow cat. He's currently sitting on the wife's lap, reminding her who's boss. ; )

The really tough one is going to be when my dog <--- (avatar Annie) goes. I'm going to be a basket case when that happens.

On the upside, Mom picked up a really sweet little girl cat a couple weeks back, so after Oscar passes we'll spoil that one until we get around to submitting ourselves to another feline master.
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HereForTheBeer: Just got back from the UW vet. The KittyCATscan showed a couple questionable spots, one on each lung. <sigh> And that's in addition to the major tumor outside his chest cavity. Been through lung cancer with Dad earlier this year (it was really quick), my stepdad last year (drawn out over about a year), and a family friend, also earlier this year.

And now Oscar.

Well, shit.

Told them that we'll take the palliative route - we're not going to put him through crazy medical efforts when it might gain him but 3-6 more months, and probably not the best of months at that. For now we'll continue to spoil the hell out of him.
I am truly sorry to hear that. Make the most of each moment as best you can. I believe that the major source of grief over losing Lucy(besides her being a gift from my father and an anchor through troubled times) was that during those last couple of months, and especially days leading up to her being euthanised, was the disconnection that came from within. I didn't know how to handle watching her die slowly, so I disconnected for the most part. When she died, every harsh word and action repeated over and over in my head and I felt so bad for the times I didn't express love the way I felt. She gave me so much and I know she forgave me for how I was but I still don't think 12 years later that I have forgiven myself.

I have noticed a common factor with death and grief from my experiences of loss and from being with many others who have experienced loss through death. When one feels at ease with the relationship - I showed love as best I could and that person lived life as best they could, the grieving process is different. Yes there is a significant loss but there is still more of an acceptance. My challenges with accepting loss seem to stem from "I could have done better".

Many seem to enter a state of denial and try to prolong the life of a loved one at the expense of quality of life. I recently wrote a eulogy of sorts and am about to write further about the experience of losing my grandfather recently (see http://www.gog.com/forum/general/honouring_the_departed_giving_thanks/post1). Writing and sharing stories has been very helpful for my own healing.

<3 to you for the tough times ahead and well done for expressing your thoughts, feelings and experiences so openly on these forums.
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I know this is the Bitch thread... but I need to take a minute to thank everyone for letting me vent and being there for me when I really needed it. <3

and a special thank you to (below) for their support!

Soccorro, Tarnicus, F4LL0UT, Crewdroog, monkeydelarge, ddickinson, and any one else I missed. I tried to get everyone.