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But the point is "See Wrong". Many times it's "Assume Wrong". And maybe the "assumed victim" doesn't feel like a "victim" at all.

Is it? I've seen people translating "Neger" to "Nigger" years ago already. Just have a look at this (english) Spiegel Online article from six years ago. We (german speaking folks) all know that a "Negerkuss" isn't a "Nigger kiss". And I bet she didn't get called "nigger" either, but just loved that wrong translation to make a point how racist all germans are.

I don't say there isn't any racism. There's lots of it! And it's worrying to see how you can win elections with racism nowadays (all over the world). But you don't fight it by pushing Neger into the nigger corner. Quite the opposite... People are getting sick of the language police. That's one of the reasons why far right parties are winning elections. People are sick of getting called racists, just because they think it's a bad idea to let more than one milion refugees into the country and to allow them to get there families here, too (when at the same time there's a cap on rent increases for the whole country, because there already wasn't enough housing space for the people who already live here).

I don't get it... Instead of fighting the real problems, people started to fight how we use or shouldn't use certain words. They're not fighting racists, they're fighting non-racist people who use normal words that racists use as a slur. Fight the racists, not the words. The way they're doing it now, they're giving more power to racists.

And now I'm out.
EDIT: Actually, just one more thing.

I got the scar puncture holes TO PROVE IT, you can see them QUITE clearly in a certain light.

Now: https://orig00.deviantart.net/abfa/f/2016/238/8/9/esults__1950s_man_w__tea_coffee_cup_by_mrangrydog-dafdak3.png

Wow. You got a lot of problems. I know, I have had a lot of problems. But there's a thing here. You've decided to take on a victim mentality, and for that, you suck. You constantly whine and cry about your life and insult others who don't want to here it, then cry abuse when they tell you to stuff your whining and crying. I don't normally interact with you, but to see you playing the victim card again is just insane. My child is intellectually incapable of taking care of himself, and I'm undecided as to whether he belongs in jail for sexually assaulting my daughter (his half sister) after 5 years of residential treatment has failed to help him. And that's with heavy involvement on my end (I didn't just send him away and forget about it). I watched friends die in Afghanistan.. I have PTSD. I don't cry the victim because I am in control of my own life.

Stop being a fucking victim, no one cares about your problems. No one wants to hear about your issues. Hell, one of the people you like to laugh at has battled cancer and at least temporarily won. He odesn't go on and on and on about it because he's not a victim either. Grow up and realize that even though your life has been hard up to now, only you can change it, and if you instead wallow in self-pity and stupidity, you'll be attacked and mocked because you're a loser. You've always been one and you've never tried not being one.
Jesus H Christ on a rubber crutch if you're so miserable find something else to do. Just quit whining about it here so you can cry victim when people tell you to shut up about it. You're not the only person to ever suffer.

Yes, that Is the word I am saying should be banned.

Before you ask, that word has been used against me on this very forum. (I consider a spam post that is posted as a reply to me and uses that word repeatedly in a derogatory fashion to count as using it against me, but I am pretty sure that's not the only time it happened.)

Here are my thoughts:

Once black people start using that word to describe themselves and each other in public (and all-black or primarily-black spaces aren't enough; it needs to be in places like public social media posts), and once prominent black people and orginazations (I am thinking orginazations like NAACP), I'll consider the word reclaimed and acceptable to use; until then, I'll continue to treat it as a slur.

Taking in general here, not of any particular issues or people, but that doesn't make it any better or in any way acceptable. If it would, then nobody should ever be happy or talk about positive things either, because they're not the only ones to ever have it well either, and others certainly have it even better.
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There's a term for that mindset: victim blaming. Making people responsible for what's being done to them, even more so when it's something willingly done by others, so it's very clear who should be held entirely responsible.
That's an awful, rotten mindset. As is that of those who cry foul over anything and demand the speech police and safe spaces and so on, yes. Sure, both should have the right to be expressed as opinions, free speech and all, but in terms of policies or even any practical application of social norms, neither should be even tolerated.
Just to be clear, lashing out against both fr33kSh0w2012 and paladin181 and anyone who agrees with either here.

I largely ignore people crying the victim. There's a time and place. But when your every move is "I'm a victim, you can't say anything to me!" it's a straight up manipulation. I'm a victim, I honestly choose to put that away. I'm not victim blaming. No one was saying that anything that happened to the person was their own fault. What is their own responsibility and fault is how they deal with it going forward. You don't choose to be victimized. You can choose to continue being a victim after the fact though, which is what fr33ksh0w2012 chooses to do, and to be fair, they have every right. But to claim no one else could ever understand suffering because they're not [me] is fallacious and disingenuous. That's literally 90% of fr33ksh0w2012's posts and discussion {"my life is sooo terrible and you could never understand because you're not me, so shut up and tell me I'm ok!") and I just tire of seeing it because everyone has problems. Just because we don't constantly bitch and moan or bemoan our lot in life doesn't mean we don't understand suffering or hardship.

You have got NO IDEA I don't laugh at him Because he had or has cancer No I argue with him because he calls me a bullsh!t artist, Have you been bashed and clinically dead over 33 to 35 times, No? I cannot CHANGE IT how do you change it when it's your parent and Sister and your parent is asking you weird as sh!t questions RAPIDLY everyday my parent is already on lots of clozapine

I have NEVER insulted any one that didn't insult me first AND YOU DAMNED WELL KNOW IT! you watched friends die in AFGHANISTAN well I'm sorry YOU CHOSE TO BE A SOLDIER IN THE WAR I Didn't choose to be the way I am.

I WATCHED MY ONLY FRIEND DIE when a SAMURAI SWORD CUT HIM IN HALF did you think of that? I SAW HIS GUTS STRETCH A WHOLE FOOTBALL FIELD HE WAS CRAWLING WITH HIS TOP HALF TO ME IT SCREWED WITH ME THAT HE LIVED THAT LONG!

I also have PTSD and TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY

Yeah because CANCER isn't someone injuring/half Mauling you to death IS IT!

My life hasn't just been "Hard" sonshine.

How is your son incapable of taking care of himself, Did you see him do what your daughter are claiming?

So your calling my utter torment everyday of the week and MOST of the night times STUPID?

You do realise I got my parent from schizo-affactive disorder (when having their episodes it is like they are demon possessed) to almost sane only took 18 to 20 YEARS of my life away from me started when I was 16 straight after my parents psychosis where my parent was rocking backwards and forwards clutching a pillow and crying and I had to watch my parent WITHER AWAY AND NEARLY DIE did your parents wither away looking WORSE then a POW CAMP VICTIM, Hmm?

Looking worse then this:

https://www.nps.gov/ande/learn/historyculture/images/33759v.jpg

Did your parent look like the photo above where you could see a fading photo of your parent in your mind yellowing like a photo then getting lines and cracks though it and then finally crumbling to dust, Do you know how much that sh!t hurt?

Do you know how many breakdowns I've had where ALL I COULD DO IS CRY OUT A WINDOW?

Do you realise a while ago my parent had a NASTY fall down steps and went through a wall HEAD FIRST and it nearly killed my parent?

My sister thought it was funny, when I collapsed the other day from EXHAUSTION.

I'd like to see YOU walk a day in my shoes, Sonshine.

Did you get raped at 6 years old multiple times a day LIKE I HAVE BEEN! but because I'm a male and the ones that RAPED ME when I was 6 years old IN A WOMANS REFUGE were female I was laughed at called a spastic a Loser just like you called me oh but that's right I'm just a F**KING RETARD LOSER and according to c**ts like you I took on the "Victim mentality"

No "Joe" I didn't, I tried taking on a happy face I tried to get along, I Tried to be nice and decent and respectful then some smart f**k (who thinks they are) makes smart arse remarks which causes others to DEREP me that Pisses me of "Joe"

I tell them look sonshine I'm dealing with XYZ here and I've been dealing with it for over 18 **YEARS** all I want "Joe" is people understanding and backing off a bit "Joe" hope you don't mind me calling you "Joe" it's short for "John Doe"

This soldier (me) is tired "Joe" tired of it all, The only way out of it "Joe" that I can see is if I END MY LIFE "Joe" It's plain obvious everyone hates my guts including you on here!

You don't deal with half of the sh!t I have dealt with and you CHOSE to be a soldier they don't draft kids anymore you knew the risks nobody held a gun at your head and told you YOU MUST JOIN the Military "JOE"

You thought you could be a HERO didn't you, You got USED "Joe" they used your sense of Patriotism against you, and you fell for it, so don't put that on me when you chose your career

My friend wanted to join the military "joe" he got 98% on his psych evaluation test he spent ONLY three (3) months living in my house he heard my parent and their ramblings for ONLY 3 months he went back to the base when they called him to do another psych evaluation test "Joe" He went from 98% on his psych test to only 02% and that was only 3 months of hearing sh!t out of my parents mouth it screwed him up my other friend who heard it went insane and Raped a 98 year old and he KILLED HER (do you know I live with that guilt everyday that my parent made one of my friends insane and he RAPED an OLD LADY) I Keep my parent OUT of the community "Joe" that means 24/7/365 I am Imprisoned in my own house I'm in prison being punished for the crime of having an insane parent. I have never commited any crime that I know of.

Yup. I rest my case. I'm not going to argue with you, or call your suffering less. I'm just going to say you proved my point with this post and be on my way. I have no intention in engaging you because it's not about the extent of your actual suffering (or how much of it you're making up, if you are) but rather about how this is literally all you do and how you define yourself. I wish you luck in the future and I hope you get the attention/help you so desperately need. But I will not indulge your "woe is me" pity party. I don't care.

I'm not making it up, oh so now your Dodging me because I just proved that my parent sent my other two friends I managed to scrape up INSANE.

*sigh* you proved nothing. I'm refusing to totally engage because I choose not to. I don't hate you, and I don't want to make your suffering worse. I do doubt some of your claims, that's true. But I will NOT say I think you're making them up, or tell you which because perhaps you're not. I can doubt things while still recognizing the possibility it is true. It just simply isn't my business. And honestly, it would turn into a pissing contest with no way to prove and just dont want that. Besides, i dont need to cause you more pain by reliving painful events to try and prove to me how real your pain is. I do genuinely hope you can get help. We all need it sometimes in varying degrees, and you seem to need it as much or more than most.

Well it's 4:21 AM here right now My body is burning like I've got gunpowder pumping through my veins (It's pissing me off), I gotta fill up my hot water bottles to try and ease it, Fuck this crackling Pain keeping me up all night, Now I'm rambling and typing it at the same time, I have a bad habit of doing that.