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drmike: Now if the person in question was female.....
Why does it matter? The way the OP outlined the problem is that the person in question is "rude, smelly, can't read social cues, etc." Seems like sex is not an issue here.
nvm
Post edited October 07, 2017 by Breja
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drmike: Probably doesn't want to do that since he mentioned another member who's an alumni who drives an hour for meetings.
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Alaric.us: Yea, wouldn't be my first choice either. That said, we are talking about an anime club. It sounds like telling someone to GTFO is not their strongest suit, I mean they've been suffering him for a year.
The officers are concerned about it appearing like they're just arbitrarily kicking someone out. Yeah there's good personal reason, but having a precedence of getting rid of someone because we don't like them ultimately hurts us in the long run. He's insufferable, but has also according to university rules and the club constitution done nothing wrong. That's the frustrating part. I had suggested amending the constitution to have non-students be accepted on a case-by-case basis, but they didn't like it. And this is me being a wuss, but the guy is like three-feet wide and I don't like my prospects if he decides to get a little physical upon me telling him to fuck off. Though that would have the effect of immediately and legitimately banning him from the campus, so maybe me taking one for the team wouldn't be all that bad.
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sauvignon1: ...
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DeMignon: To be honest, the hardest way for you might be the best one. Talk to him one on one and tell him the plain truth. You have to give him the chance to understand the situation and to get a grip on himself. If he decides to stay nonetheless and changes for the better, good. If he leaves, good. If he stays and ignores your feedback, you can clearly vote against him with no remorse. It's hard to have this conversations, but it's fair, honest and eventually rather a winner for you.
^This! This is the best and most honest way to deal with the matter.

Also... The first rule of Anime Club is to never...oh, wait... nevermind ;)
Guys, it's all about priorities. None of you have bothered to ask the truly important questions.

... Does he have a printer?
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If you're not willing to confront him, then one of you is going to have to bite the bullet and marry him. Then complain that he spends too much time with his club. It's not the solution you need, but it's the solution you probably deserve if that anonymous Facebook BS is a move you considered before just being honest with the guy.

Honestly, the politics of some members needing to save face and everyone being so paralyzed that they can't do anything for a year reflects much more poorly on your club than any one member ever could.
Saying nothing from the start was the biggest mistake. Now its become such a huge problem that you can't talk to him informally about it. If your reputation is what you're worried about, talk to him about his behavior through that and tell him indirectly to get back in line. No need to bring in personal dislike if there is a legitimate reason. Shouldn't be hard enough to organize a meeting before a new batch of students arrive and take him aside and tell him.

Also, its probably best to talk to the people who put the burden of kicking him to you. Ask them why your skin is worth less than theirs. Or how and why an anime club even has a hierarchy in the first place.
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Shadowstalker16: Or how and why an anime club even has a hierarchy in the first place.
Well, school-sponsored clubs tend to have officers. No idea why, but this is generally the case.

That said, I am not entirely certain why a bunch of kids getting together to watch anime and talk about how much they love it, need school sponsorship. They are all friends so why can't they just do it on their own? Unless they need something from the school, such as space or something otherwise unobtainable.
This is why I DO NOT JOIN Clubs!
Of course it is easy for me (us) to say, but I'd also propose a direct approach.

First of all, does he realize at all that he is disliked? And if he does, doesn't he just care, or does it make him angry and even more unpleasant?

I propose not "contacting" him anonymously because... well, it is just cowardly and leaves a really sour taste in the mouth (you criticize someone personally without revealing yourself), and if he finally finds out who it was, all the worse for you.
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CharlesGrey: Guys, it's all about priorities. None of you have bothered to ask the truly important questions.

... Does he have a printer?
I wonder how many will get that one.
Find a really popular, long running, shonen series that he hates and dedicate entire sessions to it until he leaves. Set it up as a bit of a binge session, have people watch 25 episodes a week, have manga readings etc and then talk non-stop about how it's the greatest thing ever & discuss turning the group into one solely focused on fanboy/girl antics regarding that series (DIY stories, art work, fanfic -romance especially, etc.)
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227: If you're not willing to confront him, then one of you is going to have to bite the bullet and marry him. Then complain that he spends too much time with his club. It's not the solution you need, but it's the solution you probably deserve if that anonymous Facebook BS is a move you considered before just being honest with the guy.

Honestly, the politics of some members needing to save face and everyone being so paralyzed that they can't do anything for a year reflects much more poorly on your club than any one member ever could.
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serpantino: Find a really popular, long running, shonen series that he hates and dedicate entire sessions to it until he leaves. Set it up as a bit of a binge session, have people watch 25 episodes a week, have manga readings etc and then talk non-stop about how it's the greatest thing ever & discuss turning the group into one solely focused on fanboy/girl antics regarding that series (DIY stories, art work, fanfic -romance especially, etc.)
I like that approach, however the joke's on you if it turns out that he really loves that series.
He has been with you for over a year, and not one of you has confronted him about his alleged rudeness and smelliness? Congratulations! You are all complicit in his behavior. By not objecting, you have all consented to and validated his behavior.

"Hey, dude, did you jog here or something?"
"Yeah, how did you know?"
"Well, you smell kinda ripe, and we don't have the best ventilation in this room."