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Rather strange question to ask in a place like this, but it needs to be taken care of.
So everyone at my university's local club is great, with the very noticable exception of one guy who is not a student. He's very rude, smelly, can't read social cues, etc. Basically take that bad image of "anime fan" that forms in your head and bring it to life. Nobody likes this guy. We're all friends but nobody is willing to hang out with him for good reasons. I'm good friends with all the officers, and they've said several times that they're just praying for the slightest excuse to kick him out. I really hate to be mean about something like this. Throwing someone out is not a pleasent idea, but honestly it has to be done. I feel having him hurts our club's reputation and could potentially turn off new members.

So have any of you guys dealt with a similar problem, and if so, how did you handle it?
An idea popped in my head today of taking an indirect direct approach by creating an anonymous burner facebook account and just messaging the guy to lay the cards on the table. Course I have no idea how that would play out, but it's either play the waiting game for him to do something (and he's been coming for like a year or so, so patience has been tested) or take matters into my own hands. This would be done purely alone without the knowledge of the officership, so I shoulder the burden of whatever happens and they can save face.
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No.

I've fired plenty of people.

You grow a pair of balls and tell him to hit the road. Be honest, direct, and firm. Don't get emotional, allow him to vent, but don't react. He'll leave.

Of course, this is an anime club we're talking about, so I have no idea how you little girls do things.
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sauvignon1: ...
To be honest, the hardest way for you might be the best one. Talk to him one on one and tell him the plain truth. You have to give him the chance to understand the situation and to get a grip on himself. If he decides to stay nonetheless and changes for the better, good. If he leaves, good. If he stays and ignores your feedback, you can clearly vote against him with no remorse. It's hard to have this conversations, but it's fair, honest and eventually rather a winner for you.
Post edited October 06, 2017 by DeMignon
Sounds like a bad idea to create a fake facebook profile. Morally dubious imo.
Why is this guy even allowed to come to the club when he's not a student?
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morolf: Sounds like a bad idea to create a fake facebook profile. Morally dubious imo.
Why is this guy even allowed to come to the club when he's not a student?
We allow non students. Usually it's alumni who are still in town, but we also have one really nice guy from Alabama, who drives an hour every Saturday to attend meetings.
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sauvignon1: An idea popped in my head today of taking an indirect direct approach by creating an anonymous burner facebook account and just messaging the guy to lay the cards on the table
You sound *much* worse than he does. That's underhanded and despicable. I bet he isn't.
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DeMignon: Talk to him one on one and tell him the plain truth. You have to give him the chance to understand the situation and to get a grip on himself.
^^ This. This is the *only* way to deal with real people.
Post edited October 07, 2017 by Hickory
"anime club"
I thought anime was just that secret cringey hobby which we never tell anyone else about? You're not supposed to go making clubs you fool!
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sauvignon1: I'm good friends with all the officers, and they've said several times that they're just praying for the slightest excuse to kick him out. I really hate to be mean about something like this. Throwing someone out is not a pleasent idea, but honestly it has to be done.
Sounds like you other guys in the club have more of a social interaction problem than this guy has. I don't understand why you can't confront him like a normal person (or normal persons if you feel that you need backup from the other members on this) and offer him options: change his attitude for the better, or leave.

If you ask me you're being mean by allowing him to stay - from what you're saying nobody likes him and wants to interact with him anyway.

Oh and by the way, there's no point in trying to get everyone in the world to like you or to treat them with the most delicate of care if that also implies lying to them or just doing it to keep a status quo where you have a 0% chance of being "the bad guy".
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sauvignon1: An idea popped in my head today of taking an indirect direct approach by creating an anonymous burner facebook account and just messaging the guy to lay the cards on the table.
What? No. Talk to him. He might react badly, so what? Keep your wits together and get your point across. Being decisive does not mean you're being mean.
Post edited October 07, 2017 by WinterSnowfall
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sauvignon1: An idea popped in my head today of taking an indirect direct approach by creating an anonymous burner facebook account and just messaging the guy to lay the cards on the table
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Hickory: You sound *much* worse than he does. That's underhanded and despicable. I bet he isn't.
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DeMignon: Talk to him one on one and tell him the plain truth. You have to give him the chance to understand the situation and to get a grip on himself.
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Hickory: ^^ This. This is the *only* way to deal with real people.
It was just a quick idea that popped in my head, clearly it's not the way to go then. We just don't want to be seen as arbitrarily kicking someone out, which reflects badly on us.
I worked at a college radio station with the same issue with an alumni who had issues.

Their staff just upped the requirements of extra duties required by the alumni to be able to participate until they gave up in disgust.

Just a thought.
Totally agree with every one else, this issue needs to be handled directly. Trying to do this on the sly through an anonymous cut out would be more hurtful. However, I don't necessarily think it should be you. Kicking someone out of the club falls under the duties of being an officer. So go to who ever is in charge and tell them they need to deal with the guy. As Gandhi once said "You need to nut up or shut up!"

I may not be remembering that quote quite right but you get the idea.
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yogsloth: I've fired plenty of people.

You grow a pair of balls and tell him to hit the road. Be honest, direct, and firm. Don't get emotional, allow him to vent, but don't react. He'll leave.

Of course, this is an anime club we're talking about, so I have no idea how you little girls do things.
Pretty much this.

Alternatively, if you want to be sneaky and underhanded, prod the university to require the club to have only students as members.
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Alaric.us: Alternatively, if you want to be sneaky and underhanded, prod the university to require the club to have only students as members.
Probably doesn't want to do that since he mentioned another member who's an alumni who drives an hour for meetings.
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Alaric.us: Alternatively, if you want to be sneaky and underhanded, prod the university to require the club to have only students as members.
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drmike: Probably doesn't want to do that since he mentioned another member who's an alumni who drives an hour for meetings.
Yea, wouldn't be my first choice either. That said, we are talking about an anime club. It sounds like telling someone to GTFO is not their strongest suit, I mean they've been suffering him for a year.
Now if the person in question was female.....