Posted May 15, 2015
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He was a friend from my teen years, actually. Though two years younger than me, we were neighbors and best buddies since early teens.
After I moved because of college, we remained good friends through the internet and would see each other whenever possible, but life was not very kind to him. He always had trouble with his family (father was somewhat crazy; mother is, well, out of touch with reality, I think), seemed to attach himself too much to bad friendships, had extremely low self-stem, had bipolar disorder and had a tendency to become addicted to things (at a time it was Ragnarok Online, another it was practicing martial arts) and drugs.
His worst problem was with alcohol and, though I've never seen him drunk, people say that he could be very violent when drunk. Years of problematic behavior also made him a very good and manipulative liar and that, coupled with his drugs problems, eroded basically all of his friendships and relationships.
Throughout this time, I too became distant from him, never denying him the pleasure of a good friendly talk, but never eager to see him either. I actually became a close friend to a girl* whom he had a relationship with for years (it was toxic for both of them) and she was one of the two people who broke the news to me.
It is unsure if he committed suicide or if it was an accident, he fell from the balcony of his apartment on the second floor of a building. He lived with his mother, but she was traveling at the time. People seem to be inclined to think he was drunk and deliberately tried to kill himself, jumping.
As for me, five or six years ago, I believe I'd be completely devastated, but today I just feel a great deep sadness. As I said, he eroded all his relationships and that includes ours, even though he seemed to hold me in great regards until the end.
I feel like this was something I always knew would happen and was somewhat expecting it to happen at any time. Only it happened now and no one was actually expecting it to happen.
Anyway, thanks for listening to me. I feel I should be feeling sadder, even though I can't and this is troubling me a bit, I think.
* Don't get me wrong here, I became good friends with her, but I never dated her or anything like that.
After I moved because of college, we remained good friends through the internet and would see each other whenever possible, but life was not very kind to him. He always had trouble with his family (father was somewhat crazy; mother is, well, out of touch with reality, I think), seemed to attach himself too much to bad friendships, had extremely low self-stem, had bipolar disorder and had a tendency to become addicted to things (at a time it was Ragnarok Online, another it was practicing martial arts) and drugs.
His worst problem was with alcohol and, though I've never seen him drunk, people say that he could be very violent when drunk. Years of problematic behavior also made him a very good and manipulative liar and that, coupled with his drugs problems, eroded basically all of his friendships and relationships.
Throughout this time, I too became distant from him, never denying him the pleasure of a good friendly talk, but never eager to see him either. I actually became a close friend to a girl* whom he had a relationship with for years (it was toxic for both of them) and she was one of the two people who broke the news to me.
It is unsure if he committed suicide or if it was an accident, he fell from the balcony of his apartment on the second floor of a building. He lived with his mother, but she was traveling at the time. People seem to be inclined to think he was drunk and deliberately tried to kill himself, jumping.
As for me, five or six years ago, I believe I'd be completely devastated, but today I just feel a great deep sadness. As I said, he eroded all his relationships and that includes ours, even though he seemed to hold me in great regards until the end.
I feel like this was something I always knew would happen and was somewhat expecting it to happen at any time. Only it happened now and no one was actually expecting it to happen.
Anyway, thanks for listening to me. I feel I should be feeling sadder, even though I can't and this is troubling me a bit, I think.
* Don't get me wrong here, I became good friends with her, but I never dated her or anything like that.