Thanks for the tips and trying to help, but please understand I'm not interested in the "Customize Aspect Ration" option. It's garbage (well, it does what it's intended so I guess not garbage) but it's NOT what I'm looking for.
All it does is (please look at the screenshot again) is makes the image in the upper right configurable by adjusting those sliders to "fill the screen" as you see fit. Unfortunately, it's universal, so one would have to go in and play with those sliders for every different resolution, and then undo every time. Not interested. I did play around with it and it's more a PITA than just dealing with the loss of half the screen.
There was a single button I could click on every other Nvidia card I've ever used (and I'm sure it's still there on the Nvidia control panel but not showing up on THIS laptop due to the Optimus crap) that would handle it automatically, every time, with no going in and out between every app and turning it on and off. If it was native 1080, it filled the screen, if it was 800X600, it scaled to fill the screen, if it was 1028X762, it filled the screen, etc. etc. etc. I play lots and lots and lots of different games with various resolutions and on my old laptops and desktops I could count on them simply and automatically filling the screen. I suspect the option in the "different" Intel HD Control Panel pictured above would result in the same thing.
And when I'm at my desk, on the desktop, normally I prefer the native resolutions as well. But out here, in my den, where I'm several feet away from the large screen TV, I prefer it to fill the screen because it's easier on my old eyes and it just, well, looks better from a longer distance on a big screen TV. I dunno, can't explain it better than that. Sitting at my desk a few feet from my monitor, it never bothered me much, but out here, it does. Sorry, can't explain it I guess. Doesn't matter really, that's not the issue. The issue is this Optimus technology doesn't allow me to do what I could do before (and it h as OTHER problems as well, in so far as how some games just don't default to the right processor and run like crap so you have to manually go in and adjust it for each of those games or do what I've done and globally assign the default processor as the Nvidia one).
It's a useful piece of tech for those who may use their laptops on their batteries often and for things other than gaming. It's not useful however for someone who specifically buys a GAMING LAPTOP and who is interested in performance over battery life. I can't for the life of me understand why it would be part of an advertised and sold as GAMING LAPTOP with high end Nvidia graphics. (in this case the Nvidia 870 IIRC)