Yeah you nailed it.

Sure. The people who were my closest friends at school (including high school), we all have our own lives now, new friends that we see more often etc. Occasionally we do get together to kind of think of the old times (usually to some cabin in the woods, just drinking, going to sauna, eating well and talking shit), but there's been awhile for those as well. Maybe I should remind them.

That also reminds me that maybe my closest friend ever (who I actually got to know through my big brother, as they were on the same class, ie. he is a few years older than me), we kind of grew apart as well over the years.

I once got hold of him and invited him over, but it was an odd experience. It really felt we didn't have much to say to each other, it was awkward. And kinda sad. Kinda like asking "so, what have you been doing these last 10 years we haven't seen?" seemed kinda odd. I guess we grew apart, it didn't feel anymore like we know each other.

Something tells me you've never seen Friday the 13th. Or perhaps cabins in the woods are only deadly in America, hmm...

He wanted you to be the "bad guy" in the sense that he wanted you to be the one that cuts "the connection".

That's why his behavior towards you was like that. It was planned. So he can go to his friends and family and then be like "hey look, BreOl72 ditched me". He did not want to be the one that ditches you because then he would come across as the bad guy.

Seems like that to me.

Friendships are nothing but temporary relationships of convenience. People want to be your friends when you bring something valuable to the table. When that stops, so does the friendship.

Isn't it always the people who start having sex that are killed in those movies? We never do that there.

Nah, if memory serves the first person from the group that gets killed is always the one that winds up by himself/herself for whatever reason, like wandering away to check out something.

I miss my old partying group. Was some of the most fun times I've ever had. Damned aging.

Well, when people get married, engaged, or try getting into a serious relationship, most of the times, this is usually to the expense of friendships (to be precise, time spent with friends), even if they are old pals from way back. Or other, various obligations of life. Everyone really has it tough and many times, this is not a kind excuse to cut other people off, or give them less time... Life today is hard and difficult, with hard choices and peculiar priorities, most of them discovered while you (or anyone, frankly) gets older.

I would be glad if my friends had been honest with me and told me something along those lines, but i am afraid, my case is not very normal.

I am not being ironic here, but please, try to be glad that people are honest with you. They could play friend, stick to you and damage you into impossible and unimaginable ways. My life is almost ruined by previous friends of mine.

Your BEST friend, first and foremost, is your own self. Even it might betray you sometimes, but not in a way to do you real harm. Also, friendship nowadays, alas, is VERY overrated. Like most ancient relics and customs of antiquity that had been invented and prospered then, today their real meanings and values have been terribly tarnished, warped, twisted even. Once upon a time, friendship had been something holy and sacred, coupled with vows; today, at least from personal experience, i cannot even begin to describe the aftereffects i received from trying to dabble in that damnable thing.

I wish you the best of luck. As well as adaptability and evolution. Not being dependent to something that can really harm you a lot and has worse chances than gambling to bring you anything good, is a wonderful thing.

Well then, as long as no one needs to go to toilet or anything, we should be fine.

People change, fortunately and unfortunately. Most of them aren't even aware of this and don't care at all. They live life according to what benefits/amuses them at the moment. It takes a bit of effort to meet people with character who aren't going to turn into flakes down the road.

I think it's a normal way of life, my best friend used to visit me very often. He always had other friends from his job but ever since he got a gf we don't see each other much and he still meets his other work friends outside of work.

There's no hard feelings between us though, we always had different tastes in certain areas. Sometimes I visit his family even when he's not home.