Hehe, thanks for the advice, I'm going to try the suggestion for the power-man group.
As for the XP, I installed a mod from the Ease of Use pack.
What was really stressing was say, sneaking past the orcs in the cave, then going BACK to kill them all for the XP/loot.
Getting the XP bonus for sneaking past, THEN going back to kill them just didn't seem legit to me. It was stuff like that, bluffing past the monks, and probably other examples.