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I always feel like I should keep my problems to myself, because most people I know have much worse ones.
Post edited August 05, 2009 by Mentalepsy
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stonebro: Please elaborate.

To be honest, I'd rather not. It wasn't exactly a fun experience.
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Mentalepsy: I always feel like I should keep my problems to myself, because most people I know have much worse ones.

Yeah, but what if they feel the same way? And the people they know feel the same and so on and so on. Then one day something pushes someone over the edge and it starts a chain reaction and everyone's bottled up anger gets released and it starts World War III? Huh, what about that?! Are you trying to destroy civilization?!?
Well, here are my two cents (almost literally):
1 - At wok I got "somewhat promoted". To avoid confusions, I didn't get a better job, I just got more work for the same money.
I work as a quality inspector (maybe that's the right translation). I used to have responsibility over 3 groups of people, to be more accurate, I am there to ensure they do good products, from the start until the final inspection of a batch (excluding the inspection, that was work of my colleague).
Now I am doing the final inspection too, and from there the products go to the warehouse and to the customer. So I have more paperwork and responsibility and if I screw something up, Then I'll have serious problems, I guess.
2 - My stepfather is a communism praising elitist jerk, who keeps saying crap like "we are family, we have to discuss things", "no one of us is more than the others" and such, but if there is any argument between us (Because I didn't do something the way he wanted it. He believes that if you don't do something his way, you're doing it wrong), he keeps yelling at you, that you are only a piece of shit, because you didn't achieve more in your life than him.
IMO the pigs from George Orwell's Animal farm suit him perfectly.
Post edited August 05, 2009 by klaymen
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TheJoe: LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAPPPPPYYYYYYYY BUNNY RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAABBIIIIIIIIIIIIIIITSSSSSS

These ones?
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TheJoe: LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAPPPPPYYYYYYYY BUNNY RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAABBIIIIIIIIIIIIIIITSSSSSS
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Miaghstir: These ones?

There is no love or happiness there, but there is bunny rabbits.
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frostcircus: TWO! I can foresee no possible turn of events by which I will ever again know the touch of a woman. This is not new, but the annoying part is that this time last year I was cool with this - after nigh on 26 years of being single in every way possible, I had just accepted that relationships weren't going to be a part of my life. And then at the end of last year I fell into a relationship. A stupidly short and pointless one. Reflecting, the only purpose those few months served was to take away my cool - I am once again back to believing that relationships are not going to be a part of my life, except now I am totally not cool with it. In fact it eats me up for about 75% of my waking hours, and is almost certain to turn me into Bill Dauterive.

I know just how you feel, I tend to spend large amounts of time single, then have a short relationship which ends in heartache, leaving me single again.
It feels like a constantly repeating cycle, and often I do feel like just saying "enough!" and being done with it forever.
Also doesn't help when your friends start getting married and having children.
I'd even go so far to say that if I remained single for the rest of my life I'd be more annoyed by people saying things like "are you still single?" and "haven't you met someone yet?", as well as trying to set me up with unsuitable people, than I would from being single.
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frostcircus: TWO! I can foresee no possible turn of events by which I will ever again know the touch of a woman. This is not new, but the annoying part is that this time last year I was cool with this - after nigh on 26 years of being single in every way possible, I had just accepted that relationships weren't going to be a part of my life. And then at the end of last year I fell into a relationship. A stupidly short and pointless one. Reflecting, the only purpose those few months served was to take away my cool - I am once again back to believing that relationships are not going to be a part of my life, except now I am totally not cool with it. In fact it eats me up for about 75% of my waking hours, and is almost certain to turn me into Bill Dauterive.
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Andy_Panthro: I know just how you feel, I tend to spend large amounts of time single, then have a short relationship which ends in heartache, leaving me single again.
It feels like a constantly repeating cycle, and often I do feel like just saying "enough!" and being done with it forever.
Also doesn't help when your friends start getting married and having children.
I'd even go so far to say that if I remained single for the rest of my life I'd be more annoyed by people saying things like "are you still single?" and "haven't you met someone yet?", as well as trying to set me up with unsuitable people, than I would from being single.

Ah man. I hear both of you guys on this. You spend forever adjusting to being single and just about accepting that this is how it's going to be. But then you meet her and you think maybe there's a chance and things seem to go well for a time. Then inevitably, while you are friends and you're hoping to step it up, she meets some other guy, who invariably is the scummy type who fucks people like her over.
The worst bit for me is the awful knowledge that it'll most likely happen again, because, (ARGH) it's happened before! But hey, it's cool, apparently I'm a "nice guy". A phrase that should I ever become Emperor of the Earth, I will banish and outlaw.
Hmm, still not sure it is a good idea to post that, but...
Here's the story:
Recently, I've seen a girl I had not seen since a year. She's just a friend, nothing more, except that she may be my best friend. When I first met her, many years ago, she was the girlfriend of one of my best friends. When she lived in the same town, we both shared an apartment. It was really nice, it builded a very strong friendship between her and me. Then she left this town some years ago, and we saw each other from time to time.
And because we had not many free time, we haven't seen each other during a full year.
So, I've spend a weekend with her recently, and I was very happy to see her again. Now she has a new boyfriend, a really cool guy I already knew a little.
The trouble now is that I have confused feelings about her. I don't know if it's due to the fact that we didn't see each other during a year, but now I feel a very very strong friendship for her, stronger than before, at the point that I don't know if it's just friendship, or love...
Even if I'm very happy for her and her new boyfriend, I can't stop to feel jealous, and I don't like it. Maybe it's because I may have some sort of possessive friendship. Maybe not...
I will see her again next week, but really don't know what to think.
So... this was (and still is) my pitiful life :p
i'm supposed to be at the healthiest, most vibrant time in my life, but i can't maintain a weight over 110 at 5'10" tall and i am in pain most days. every medication i've tried in the last three years has done jack shit for me even though almost everyone else with my condition improves with the use of the vast majority of them. i've actually officially tried all of the accepted western remedies and tons of alternative medicines, but now my doctors are left scratching their heads and hinting at surgery to remove very important parts of my body. permanently. so my choice for the foreseeable future is to either live with the symptoms or live with the solution, neither of which i want to do. also, as soon as i am released from my parents' insurance policy i am royally fucked because of my preexisting condition. and i'm already in debt from paying my own way through college and helping my parents with my own medical bills ($800 because i walked into the ER and got a saline drip? the FUCK?!), while i watch almost every one of my friends work part time summer jobs and spend all their money on awesome shit like cars and clothes and video games because their grand/parents are paying for their education.
thing is, though, i really love my life. so many people have it so much worse than me. i still have a lot of fun when i'm not working or bedridden and i am pretty good at pretending i'm a normal boy, if i do say so myself. plus, gog's always here to cheer me up and accept me if i feel outcast.
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Nel-A: Ah man. I hear both of you guys on this. You spend forever adjusting to being single and just about accepting that this is how it's going to be. But then you meet her and you think maybe there's a chance and things seem to go well for a time. Then inevitably, while you are friends and you're hoping to step it up, she meets some other guy, who invariably is the scummy type who fucks people like her over.

It wasn't quite like that with her; we did start off as friends, but it was she who elevated it - I found out she had a crush on me, and since that had never happened before, and since I did like her, I let that develop into a relationship.
The break-up was mostly because of incompatibility, and I honestly can't fault it. I don't regret us breaking up, I regret us getting together - it was never going to work.
That said, I don't want to paint her as a saint - while we're still friends, I think she is a staggeringly selfish person, and the way she approached the break-up is a good example of her lack of basic compassion:
We'd had some rough moments, and what probably qualify as fights, but those had been smoothed over, and things were amiable. Then she left for a month-long family holiday, during which I missed her enormously, and which seemed to pass at a snail's pace.
Now, she and her family do not get along at all, and the first part of this holiday (at the family home) was a thoroughly miserable time for her - on almost a daily basis, she was crying on my shoulder (via text messages) over how cruelly they were treating her, and relying on me to make her feel better. This is a task that I am very good at.
The second part of the holiday was overseas, so contact was more sporadic, but she generally seemed happier, and let me know that since we couldn't communicate properly she was keeping a journal for me to read when she returned.
When she returned to the family home, the shoulder-crying resumed as before, though not quite as regularly since she was better-practised at dealing with her family. She gave me the journal on her way back to her place, and it was very lovingly-worded with lots of stuff about how thankful she was for helping her survive, and how she can't wait to see me again and how I'm the most reliable part of her life and so on and so on.
When I told her I'd finished reading it, she suddenly explained that after our fight a month ago her romantic feelings for me pretty much disappeared, and they haven't come back.
This was, of course, a fucking amazing punchline; so much so that I'm pretty sure a rimshot sounded out of thin air, and my trousers went BOIIIIING and fell to the ground. But yes, this is basically how and when the break-up happened. The light at the end of the tunnel was a train.
On reflection, I am 99% certain that her main appeal was that she was interested in me. I feel stupid and insecure for entering a relationship for this reason, but I know I'm not the only person ever to do it.
Post edited August 05, 2009 by frostcircus
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Master911: You Could look at TV Capture Cards Because with the one I have a VCR (Videotapes) Connected to it and through Red, yellow and White Plugs You Can Connect your Consoles
They come in External and Internal Variants as well
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TV_tuner_card

True, you could go the way of a TV tuner card... But do they come in HDMI goodness?
Anyway, I'll stop derailing the thread.
EDIT: It would seem they do come in HDMI goodness, hm.
Post edited August 05, 2009 by Shalgroth
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Ois: Not a lot: At least 10 Kilometres on an exercise bike (every 3rd day), and I lift weights while I'm slothing at the PC. I used to have a proper weight/bench set, but there is no longer the space.
I've dropped 14 kilos (10-12 weeks or so) from that method, but I've plateau off on what I can do with what I know & have.
The Gym annoys me, as attempts in the past to use them have shown instructors/trainers use an 'aggressive' personality/prompting to get you to do stuff. The last time I *was* there, I politely told them to stop yelling and walked home.

It sounds like you've hit a point where you're building muscle & changing body shape, I got to that when I hit 160kg and stayed there for a year. I focussed on the number on the scale, got depressed, gave up and piled it all back on but by all accounts, I was starting to really look good at the end which is something I could have done with being told about then. I suggest just continuing with what you're doing.
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Aliasalpha: I have a TV but its antenna port is still a virgin. I've only got it for my media PC and my xbox 360 (what flashy console games are you vaguely interested in, might be able to do some coop)
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Ois: Don't quite know to be honest. Since I don't have any recent system, I've not been keeping up, aside from the occasional disappointment when a title goes console-A exclusive or a PC focus is not on the plans.
Certain to be those out there, but I can't name one off by hand. Always up for some coop if I had a system and matching games.

I'd go for a 360 if I were you, seems to have the most variety in games and if we have games in common we could try coop
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Andy_Panthro: I'd even go so far to say that if I remained single for the rest of my life I'd be more annoyed by people saying things like "are you still single?" and "haven't you met someone yet?", as well as trying to set me up with unsuitable people, than I would from being single.

Don't forget all the fun of singles punishment day every february...
Post edited August 05, 2009 by Aliasalpha
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Nel-A: Ah man. I hear both of you guys on this. You spend forever adjusting to being single and just about accepting that this is how it's going to be. But then you meet her and you think maybe there's a chance and things seem to go well for a time. Then inevitably, while you are friends and you're hoping to step it up, she meets some other guy, who invariably is the scummy type who fucks people like her over.
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frostcircus: It wasn't quite like that with her; we did start off as friends, but it was she who elevated it...

Ah man, I'm sorry to read that. I guess there's never a good way to break up a relationship, but that is pretty harsh of her to almost lead you on with the journal and all. I'm sorry man. Still, when you eventually get past her, there'll be other women, I'm sure. When did all this happen?
Also, I'm sorry for sounding like I was assuming about your situation in my first post! I was just trying to highlight the similarities.
I've done that thing where you like a girl and she needs a shoulder to cry on so you cheer her up. I just think that I'll not bother next time because it seems like they can be slow to remember stuff like that when they are busy moving on.
This thread is cathartic, but I wanna punch something or play guitar. Why is it never straight forward?! lol I realise I sound like such a wanker right now. And I apologise for this! lol