I don't know if I'm exaggerating. Most civilized countries threw out religion from public life for a reason. I am against teaching religion at public school, so I wouldn't rather see my kid participating in them.
I agree that much depends on a religion teacher. My own in primary school was a fanatic priest who told me few times to knee before wall because I asked some "stupid" question.
It wasn't a city, a smaller town, so you may imagine why it's not that easy for parents to oppose an abusing priest, when "townfolks" support them from fear or "tradition".
My parents were brought up in strictly catholic family, so they tremble even today, when a priest is going from house to house in January to get money, because if you refuse a priest, he will call your name in public and the whole town will know that you didn't give him money.
I don't want my future family to be a part of that shit. I don't want a priest to have my kid's names in their records to use them to condemn them publicly because of something.
I don't know how long ago you were in Poland last time, but religion is still being forced on people, especially on the youngest ones. And it's more than 2 hours a week in school, because kids have to go to church every sunday, and every day during "roraty" to get first communion.
That's a lot of time for some wacko to tell my kid and convience him that his parents are going to hell. And when you are a 6-8 year old brat, you are going to believe him. And maybe we just want to spare ourselves quarrels like that and having to tell him that "thinking about girls is not impure and you don't have to worry about that", like my father had to tell me after religion classes.
Small kid may think that attending to religion classes and communion is a good thing, because "everybody else does that", but that doesn't mean we have to comply. Being "injected" with religion at a young age is in my opinion much more harmful than not being baptised.
And I'm not going to baptise my kid, just as I'm not going to enroll them to karate/boxing/pool/dancing/wrestling classes all at once, because if I don't do that, it may limit their possibilities. We will choose what we think is best for our children, knowing what they do and don't like, what their talents and possibilities are, and by hearing out their opinions.
Not just because "he may want to do something when he's 30yo". Because he might want to be a professional boxer when he turns 20, or a football player too. We can't predict everything.
You don't baptism him and when time for his first communion comes and your kid wants to participate you will,refuse?
Probably. Just like I would refuse him after he tells "I want that toy because Toby has it". Kids arguments at that age are mostly "I want to take communion because Toby has", and it's not something you should simply follow, because your kid says so.
As I've said I will say again: I believe kids are too small to make choices like that. They are too small to buy themselves an expensive toy or create a twitter account according to law, so they are usually too small to decide if they want to be catholic or not
. In my opinion, that decision should be made around 13-15 years old, and allow me to raise my children in that belief.
It would feel rather hypocritical if you let your kid to decide on its own about religion at the age of 8, but you don't let them stay outdoors as long as they want, because "They're just kids" ;-D
And with that, my kid will have a few years to check, get knowledge etc to know better if he wants to be catholic or not. If at the age of 13 or 15 he will still want to be a member of that church, that would mean for me he really wants that, not only follows the flock, because he wants to "fit in" with the rest of the kids.
But I believe it will not be a problem in larger cities in a few years from now, and a lot of kids will not have their communions, just because "it's what everybody's doin"
Of course I will let my kid to decide if he wants to be religious or not - when me and my wife decide the kid is ready and mature enough to do that. Being religious or not, is among the most important decisions in your life.