I'm not one to care much about these social features, but meh, since they're there I don't really see any reason to refuse using it. So I went and send a friend invite to some of my offline friends, maybe I get them here and off dota. Maybe I can finally get them to play Deus Ex. A man can dream.

But what surprised me was that I had a bunch of friend requests. What to do about those? After thinking about it, I decided to go with accepting those from people I remember hanging out with in the forum, but rejecting those I didn't recognize right away. To me, a "friend" means a lot more than "someone I talked to this one time", so I try not to use the word lightly, and I know I've offended people because of that. This makes me feel like a jerk whenever I reject a friend request.

So, among these friend requests, some are easy to accept or reject, but I end up thinking way too much about what to do with some of them. Am I the only one overthinking these things?

Is a rejected person notified of his/her rejection? oO

I... don't know. I've sent a PM to some about it, but I probably should have done it to all. Pity I didn't keep track of them all, now I can only remember one person that gave me that bad feeling when I rejected the request. I think I'll go and send a message about it, better to keep it straight than for them to be waiting like idiots without knowing they were rejected.

I really do overthink these things, don't I? Sigh...

Remember that relationships over the digital space are different, you don't need to take it personal. I do the same, I accept those I've talked to but otherwise, I want to know why they want to friend me.

I'll commence experimentation.

As for rejecting friends, while I also want to see what happens, just reject anyone you don't know or don't think you'll talk to all that much - if it upsets someone, well, tough shit, but I'm pretty damn selective when it comes to friends, and that applies even to internet imaginary "Friends".

Edit: Uuu, I fucked it up! I have invited myself to friends and now when I hover over my portrait it says "Sorry, data for given user is currently unavailable. Please, try again later. "

Edit2: Dawww, it resolved itself.

No, that's pretty much how I view it also. I wouldn't really want to have a bunch of randos on my 'Friends' list, either.

BTW, I came in here thinking this was going to be a thread you started to tell specific people who'd made friend requests of you that you didn't want to be their friend. I was disappointed. :( (That would be a fun thread to read through: "I reject you!" "Oh, hey...well, I reject you too. Asshole." =D )

Is there a setting to block friend requests altogether instead of having to say no to one after another?

Wow, did you reject your own friend request? Harsh.

Clever way of informing GOG of your intent to pursue a class action lawsuit over suicides resulting from rejected friend requests.

Surely GOG will rename "reject" to "maybe, ask again later".

The next move is yours...

No, I completely sympathize with you, and I'm going through the same though process now. I figure that it's prudent to stick to people you know well.

It's just... I don't know. I met this Scottish guy in Vietnam, we spent a couple days together, went for some beers and a couple museums. He was a very nice guy, I liked him and we might have become friends if we had stayed together longer. But it was just these two days. The subject popped up and I did tell him I didn't consider him a friend (yet), he was quite offended. I try to be more careful with wording from then on.

I like these forum kinds of relationships were we at least recognize each other, so I do treat them more seriously. This is only the second online community I've ever been a part of, and in both I met very interesting people, some of which I got to meet in person during my travels. It's nice. It certainly doesn't seem to be the standard way out there. I recently tried posting on a manga related board of a website I liked, so I created a thread to introduce myself. The replies were along the lines of "This isn't your blog, I don't care about your life" and the thread was deleted. Hell yeah. Now, I don't care if some random stranger doesn't like me, and I seemed to have breached etiquette over there, but I do feel the reaction was overblown. I certainly don't want to be in a community like that, so I try to stay away from that kind of dismissive behaviour. Actually, it says "decline". It does sound more polite. I know I wouldn't want to be my friend. I suck. Luckily my friends are better people than I am.

the brain says, "reject"

but the heart says, ♥ "accept" ♥




those randos tho :\

All right, just tried it out with P1na. I did not receive a notification of being rejected, the only change is that I can invite him again. So no, it acts just as if you ignored the user.

It's those fruitists you hang around with. All their anti-fruit prejudices have gotten in your head.

No notification of rejection huh? Doesn't sound very nice. I'll try to remember sending a short message from now on.
I know that one was even a mango in disguise!