Stop right there.
- She was living as a male not because she was undecided, but because of harassment she experienced offline.
- Her erratic behavior ("serious psychological issues" ) stems from her being harassed. (Obviously, it's not an excuse to defraud innocent strangers.)
- The internets is a part of the real world.
- Get off your armchair.
My armchair is quite comfy and helps to keep me from getting too uptight. You should try it sometime.
I never said that she was undecided, but rather that she hadn't made the mental transition. This means fully coming to terms with her gender identity, both as it applies to herself as well as how it applies to her interactions with the people she knows. My understanding is that very few people she knew in real life ever knew she was transgendered, and the same applied for her interactions with online communities (although she presented a different gender in each case). From what I've read, the mental transition is one of the biggest aspects of gender reassignment for transgendered individuals- it tends to be the hardest step where the most support is needed, and only later does the physical transition fully occur, typically first through hormone treatments and later through surgery.
As for harassment, I haven't seen much information presented on just how much she was actually harassed in real life. I've aware she was the target of quite a bit of harassment online, but my understanding there is that that harassment only started after she tried to defraud people and serious questions started being asked about it. This would seem to indicate that the psychological issues were there to begin with, even if the harassment later served to amplify them.