Well, I'm glad the truth is finally out. I hate how I found out about this long ago (I was one of the people who got that four page letter -- the same letter I have been telling you she was supposed to post publicly for weeks now) and got stuck keeping quiet to prevent a suicide attempt. I constantly felt like she was holding the fate her life over my head and it has been extremely stressful. (I have probably been checking this thread three or four times a day, hoping somebody would say what I wanted to say forever now.)
I honestly don't know how to feel. While I feel extremely sad that a person resorted to lying, self harm, and hiding behind a story, I feel quite betrayed now that I have stuck my neck out multiple times to give her more time to tell the truth only to be told to wait longer EVERY time I tried to help her come clean followed by garbled/nonsense skype messages with the only legible words being ones like "knife", hinting that she was being suicidal again.
I tried really hard to help in every way I could to let the truth be told in her own words and timing (thinking she would cooperate and be sorry for what she did), but instead of her receiving my kindness and taking the opportunity I laid out for her, she used that kindness as a tool to hide longer -- and I feel very used and betrayed as a result.
Obviously this was a mistake, so I apologize very much to everyone on this forum for the added convolution. I had no idea that I would be snubbed continuously like that. My intentions were kindhearted, but the results of what I tried doing ended up kicking me in my own rear end.
At this point, I honestly don't really know how to feel about all this. As of now, based on what she has said to me, I think she still feels like her actions were totally justified, which still has me absolutely shocked. I have tried a LOT to get her to realize that wrong is wrong no matter the reason, but she keeps justifying it and telling me about all her medical issues and why this-is-this and that-is-that, completely sidetracking what I am trying to talk to her about every time I bring it up. It is really upsetting as a big-brother nice-guy kind of person wanting very much to help somebody go towards the right direction and getting kicked in the butt for trying to help and watching that person run off in the wrong direction yet again. I feel very manipulated and used, and I had no idea this would happen.
As for the suicide attempt thing, my friend, frogelephants, called the police when she got a troubling message from Chloe, and Chloe was taken to the hospital, so unless something happened in the past day, she is still okay; and I really, truly hope for her and everyone else's sake during the time she is in the hospital she realizes what she has done and can learn from this huge mistake instead of making it again.
I had originally agreed to help Chloe knowing she was a friend of one of my extremely close college friends (I met Chloe when I told my college friend I would help her make a game) before I knew all the details and BOY was that a mistake. It is safe to say I will not be white knighting her any longer until she stops using people as a tools to perpetuate this mess.
I do not hate her, and I am not at all discriminating against ANY members of the lgbt community. I have been very let down, used, and lied to (even when I thought I knew the truth), so I am stepping away from Chloe until she starts owning up for what she did. I cannot be one who stands by and defends a scammer, lgbt or not. I am sorry if this angers anyone, but I cannot be the tool of a manipulator. I care about Chloe as a human being, as well as the rest of the lgbt community, and stepping back before she misrepresents others who are similar to her as liars any further is what I feel is best right now -- because I am sure a lot of anti lgbt people are ready to have a field-day with all this.
So again, I apologize to everyone. I wasted a lot of your time and I should have waited until I knew the full truth before speaking up.
Post edited May 14, 2013 by GaiaMike