Posted June 01, 2015
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So I think fr33kSh0w2012 was probably trying to express something that was a sensitive subject and Starmaker tried to respond in a way to try to create a positive change or a wake-up call.
Clearly, the exchange did not have the desired effect for anyone and the only response that will help anyone at this point is grace. Try to take some time to think about the situation and how you guys can forgive one another and if you think that's possible, then ask for it specifically (e.g. "I am sorry to say what I did. I meant to try to open your eyes but I just made you deeply angry. And I am sorry for that."). And if you don't think it's possible, then I think it's best to keep plenty of distance and just not talk with one another.
That means willingly not chatting with each other until chat bans are available.
Sometimes folks here say things that are very personal. That can be very difficult in a large community which people mostly trust. But the community is inherently impersonal. We don't know each other very well unless we spend a lot of time writing to one another, and that kind of relationship doesn't happen on the public forums. So it's terribly hard to judge people in personal way. So in the future, I would recommend keeping harsh and personal judgments about public posts as public judgments. That way, everyone sees, everyone interacts, and people don't feel emotionally or physically threatened.
I hope you guys can find grace. But if not, I hope you will find civility. And if not, I hope you guys pack up and find another place to be because you guys both deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. We all screw up and I'd hate it if my screw-ups meant that I was no longer granted respect and dignity. And the same is true with you guys. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity.
Post edited June 01, 2015 by fr33kSh0w2012