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Cavenagh: I'm an old man, I have no friends, my computer is my friend ^^. I don't go out at all, I used to go to the pub, but bla I got fedup of getting into fights. I exsist in kent now, I'm know as a DFL [down from london].

so yeah life is fun....
I can see myself turning into the grumpy old man from Pixar's movie UP.
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darthspudius: You have a point but it seems the fact I'm the only one out of our wee group that has a family and my own place. It seems to make me more distant to every one else. Maybe it's my fault but I don't even know it.
Definitely not your fault for being the only one with a family and your own place, unless of course you eliminated all of their families and burned down all of their homes or something :P
If you have your own place then you can organize some awesome events though, like Star Wars marathon nights, or Settlers of Katakaka nights, or whatever. That's what I'm going to do once I own my own place :D (renting a small flat atm)
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darthspudius: You have a point but it seems the fact I'm the only one out of our wee group that has a family and my own place. It seems to make me more distant to every one else. Maybe it's my fault but I don't even know it.
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Matewis: If you have your own place then you can organize some awesome events though, like Star Wars marathon nights, or Settlers of Katakaka nights, or whatever. That's what I'm going to do once I own my own place :D (renting a small flat atm)
I use to do that quite frequently haha. Though I started getting poor excuses and shrugged off after a few yrs.
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darthspudius: I need a little life advice from you old guys on here. It seems my (oh so dear) friends are doing a good job of replacing myself and our other chums in our wee group. Our list of friends grows shorter every day. Is this an age thing? Growing apart and so on?!

My best friend in particular has made a great deal of effort to get new chums to do everything we once did. I'm not sure if I should be offended or not. It's not like I have done anything to him.

Just curious to know if anyone else ended up in this position in their life.
I'm in a comparable situation - sort of.

My best friend and I had a lot in common (same work, taste in music, political attitude, etc.)

Then he changed his job, moved away, met a woman...now they have three kids, he has new colleagues, with whom he spends most of his free time.

Now, first, we saw each other on a more or less regular base - and it was fun, we still went on concerts, binged, talked about this and that - everything like before.

After a while, however, that changed.

Suddenly, whenever I asked, if we'd go to a concert or have a drink, he refused.

All he wanted to do, was coming over to my place, sitting in my living room and talk about his "new life".

Asking me for my opinion, but then never following my advice...BUT at the next visit, asking for my opinion on the very same topic again.

At every single visit, he started telling me, how much fun he had with his new friends, while also complaining about his new job, the wife and the hassle he went through.

It felt like having one deja-vu after the other.

In short: I was used as a dumpster for all his worries and annoyances, had no fun at all anymore with him being around, and got to hear about how well he liked being with other people (to which he never complained - so my impression, at least).

Long story short: I was the one who cut the connection.

A friend lost? Maybe.
But then again - the friend I once had, was long gone, anyway.
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darthspudius: I need a little life advice from you old guys on here. It seems my (oh so dear) friends are doing a good job of replacing myself and our other chums in our wee group. Our list of friends grows shorter every day. Is this an age thing? Growing apart and so on?!

My best friend in particular has made a great deal of effort to get new chums to do everything we once did. I'm not sure if I should be offended or not. It's not like I have done anything to him.

Just curious to know if anyone else ended up in this position in their life.
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BreOl72: I'm in a comparable situation - sort of.

My best friend and I had a lot in common (same work, taste in music, political attitude, etc.)

Then he changed his job, moved away, met a woman...now they have three kids, he has new colleagues, with whom he spends most of his free time.

Now, first, we saw each other on a more or less regular base - and it was fun, we still went on concerts, binged, talked about this and that - everything like before.

After a while, however, that changed.

Suddenly, whenever I asked, if we'd go to a concert or have a drink, he refused.

All he wanted to do, was coming over to my place, sitting in my living room and talk about his "new life".

Asking me for my opinion, but then never following my advice...BUT at the next visit, asking for my opinion on the very same topic again.

At every single visit, he started telling me, how much fun he had with his new friends, while also complaining about his new job, the wife and the hassle he went through.

It felt like having one deja-vu after the other.

In short: I was used as a dumpster for all his worries and annoyances, had no fun at all anymore with him being around, and got to hear about how well he liked being with other people (to which he never complained - so my impression, at least).

Long story short: I was the one who cut the connection.

A friend lost? Maybe.
But then again - the friend I once had, was long gone, anyway.
The thing you have lost was not your friend anymore.
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darthspudius: I need a little life advice from you old guys on here. It seems my (oh so dear) friends are doing a good job of replacing myself and our other chums in our wee group. Our list of friends grows shorter every day. Is this an age thing? Growing apart and so on?!

My best friend in particular has made a great deal of effort to get new chums to do everything we once did. I'm not sure if I should be offended or not. It's not like I have done anything to him.

Just curious to know if anyone else ended up in this position in their life.
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BreOl72: I'm in a comparable situation - sort of.

My best friend and I had a lot in common (same work, taste in music, political attitude, etc.)

Then he changed his job, moved away, met a woman...now they have three kids, he has new colleagues, with whom he spends most of his free time.

Now, first, we saw each other on a more or less regular base - and it was fun, we still went on concerts, binged, talked about this and that - everything like before.

After a while, however, that changed.

Suddenly, whenever I asked, if we'd go to a concert or have a drink, he refused.

All he wanted to do, was coming over to my place, sitting in my living room and talk about his "new life".

Asking me for my opinion, but then never following my advice...BUT at the next visit, asking for my opinion on the very same topic again.

At every single visit, he started telling me, how much fun he had with his new friends, while also complaining about his new job, the wife and the hassle he went through.

It felt like having one deja-vu after the other.

In short: I was used as a dumpster for all his worries and annoyances, had no fun at all anymore with him being around, and got to hear about how well he liked being with other people (to which he never complained - so my impression, at least).

Long story short: I was the one who cut the connection.

A friend lost? Maybe.
But then again - the friend I once had, was long gone, anyway.
That is quite close to my situation. Very close. Sorry to hear it though.
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darthspudius: I need a little life advice from you old guys on here. It seems my (oh so dear) friends are doing a good job of replacing myself and our other chums in our wee group. Our list of friends grows shorter every day. Is this an age thing? Growing apart and so on?!

My best friend in particular has made a great deal of effort to get new chums to do everything we once did. I'm not sure if I should be offended or not. It's not like I have done anything to him.

Just curious to know if anyone else ended up in this position in their life.
Same thing here, most of my friends moved away and never bothered keeping in touch.
And my best friend just stopped communicating after decades of being friends.
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darthspudius: I need a little life advice from you old guys on here. It seems my (oh so dear) friends are doing a good job of replacing myself and our other chums in our wee group. Our list of friends grows shorter every day. Is this an age thing? Growing apart and so on?!

My best friend in particular has made a great deal of effort to get new chums to do everything we once did. I'm not sure if I should be offended or not. It's not like I have done anything to him.

Just curious to know if anyone else ended up in this position in their life.
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Smannesman: Same thing here, most of my friends moved away and never bothered keeping in touch.
And my best friend just stopped communicating after decades of being friends.
So it's definitely a common thing judging by the responses, might just slap the git next time I see him.
Just saying, I'm the kind of person who doesn't keep regular contact with anyone (not even family) and then unexpectedly comes up out of nowhere when the stars align and I happen to be passing by. At that point, I just contact someone I might not have talked to in a couple years and pretty much keep going like we used to. Or I try anyway.

...am I some kind of big asshole?
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P1na: Just saying, I'm the kind of person who doesn't keep regular contact with anyone (not even family) and then unexpectedly comes up out of nowhere when the stars align and I happen to be passing by. At that point, I just contact someone I might not have talked to in a couple years and pretty much keep going like we used to. Or I try anyway.

...am I some kind of big asshole?
Yes... :P
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darthspudius: Yes... :P
I got it right! Where's my prize?
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P1na: Just saying, I'm the kind of person who doesn't keep regular contact with anyone (not even family) and then unexpectedly comes up out of nowhere when the stars align and I happen to be passing by. At that point, I just contact someone I might not have talked to in a couple years and pretty much keep going like we used to. Or I try anyway.

...am I some kind of big asshole?
You are me man! But it depends though sometimes i have no desire to contact people whom i have lost contacts i dunno why.
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darthspudius: Yes... :P
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P1na: I got it right! Where's my prize?
I'll think of something. To be honest, at least you keep in touch to a point. I'm guessing you simply enjoy your privacy?
Life is strange ^^
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Rozenman: You are me man! But it depends though sometimes i have no desire to contact people whom i have lost contacts i dunno why.
It depends on how close you were originally, I suppose, but it does sometimes feel a bit awkward to send that first message. But I typically get very friendly replies, so I just send it and if I get nothing back it's not like I lost anything anyway.