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Phc7006: Well, you could expect a member of your species to act logically, but it's far from guaranteed. A lot of actions are still dictated by what conditionned our cavemen ancestors. And , apparently, men and women had then very different approaches to life and survival techniques.
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Silverhawk170485: The point is that she wasn't able to accept that when she was wrong. As I said I could also proove that I was right. So that was not only a opinion of mine, it was a fact. When I'm wrong I accept that. But her argueing was like that: "It's that way. No further explanation." I don't know if talking bullshit and being ignorant was a survival technique of female caveman. I have to google that. ;)

Maybe it was also a fault because she was 7 years younger than I and deep under my educational level.
She finished with the lowest school grade possible in germany (if you are not disabled). I finished university and will become lawyer in about one year.
I don't understand why you would conclude that women as a group are not logical thinking lifeforms based off of your experiences dating a woman who was dumb. There are plenty of intelligent women out there and many idiotic men. Overall intelligence has nothing to do with gender. Women do think differently from men (based on what I've read and seen), that doesn't mean they are all dumb.
Natural selection - faster, please.
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wpegg: This was my latest foray into relationships. I've gone to ground for about 30 years:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPdDdC4go6c&t=90
Your ex was an evil clown?
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strixo: Natural selection - faster, please.
No. Natural selection needs to stopped or slowed at least.

Why?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=icmRCixQrx8
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Silverhawk170485: Are you serious? In my opinion they are no logical thinking lifeforms. For example my exgirlfriend blamed me for correcting her when she was talking bullshit. She did very often. She said: "You never give me right. I feel stupid when you correct me." I thought: "Yes you are stupid." but I said: "I'll give you right when you are right." I always had the better arguments and could also proove that I was right and she was wrong. In her arguments she always turned and twisted the reality so that they fitted to her fantasy word. Instead of accepting that, she quit the relationship. Stupid bitch.
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htown1980: sorry mate, you just sound like a dick. if someone is constantly correcting you (and thinks you are stupid), there is a good chance you are going to end that relationship.
He's not a dick. They just weren't a good match.
Post edited October 31, 2013 by monkeydelarge
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tinyE: I recently tried E*Harmony. They rejected my application.

When they asked me what I like in a woman evidently "My dick" was the wrong answer.
<3

That's not a heart. It's a disembodied sack o' testes.

Much love, brodekai!
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tinyE: I recently tried E*Harmony. They rejected my application.

When they asked me what I like in a woman evidently "My dick" was the wrong answer.
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fortune_p_dawg: <3

That's not a heart. It's a disembodied sack o' testes.

Much love, brodekai!
Now he's a triballs
Post edited October 31, 2013 by SpaceManThe
Y'know, I'm not Fabio or anything but I've never had any issues with dating or meeting women. During the courting/dating phase of any relationship I've always found that keeping oneself occupied with things other than the person you're trying to get with and just a touch of a 'I don't give a shit' attitude really helps. It creates a certain appealing mystique.

Hell, I'm married with a third kid on the way and some of this stuff STILL applies. This difference is that when you're married you have to make an effort to be mysterious; when you're single it should be effortless.

And this sounds like a redundant 'bro' line but go to the damn gym or get an exercise routine together at home. I'm not saying you need to get ripped or anything, it just helps boost energy levels and with that things like general outlook on people, attitude, etc.

And I don't think a brooding, spiteful attitude (which it seems like everyone has on the internet) ever helped anyone get their dick willingly sucked. Everyone needs to take a deep breath, give each other some BJs, eat some avocados, and be happy.
Post edited October 31, 2013 by fortune_p_dawg
The joke is on us. I did some investigating and guess what? fortune_p_dawg IS Fabio!
Although I never had a girlfriend and probably won't (I'm a friendless hermit and I think I'm gay anyways) there's a simple way to meet women, even if it's just as friends. Women are also human, treat them that way. If you're desperate to get laid, like I was when I was in high school, you are either going to act way too polite, come off as too desperate, or too nervous, most likely a combination of the 3. You always hear that guys that are in relationships are more attractive to women. The main reason is because you don't give a shit about finding anyone else, and when you talk to another girl you're being who you're supposed to be, yourself.

I have made plenty of acquaintances in work just by talking to people like that. You also come off as more confident that way. Location also matters. Dating sites do have a stigma attached to them, but I know people that have had success with it. Although I was browsing bi/gay men on okcupid once out of curiosity and lost all hope, but this city does suck.
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fortune_p_dawg: Y'know, I'm not Fabio or anything but I've never had any issues with dating or meeting women. During the courting/dating phase of any relationship I've always found that keeping oneself occupied with things other than the person you're trying to get with and just a touch of a 'I don't give a shit' attitude really helps. It creates a certain appealing mystique.

Hell, I'm married with a third kid on the way and some of this stuff STILL applies. This difference is that when you're married you have to make an effort to be mysterious; when you're single it should be effortless.

And this sounds like a redundant 'bro' line but go to the damn gym or get an exercise routine together at home. I'm not saying you need to get ripped or anything, it just helps boost energy levels and with that things like general outlook on people, attitude, etc.

And I don't think a brooding, spiteful attitude (which it seems like everyone has on the internet) ever helped anyone get their dick willingly sucked. Everyone needs to take a deep breath, give each other some BJs, eat some avocados, and be happy.
Well said. =)

I think being social, happy, a little confident, relaxed, patient, courteous and obviously willing and able to take care of oneself and invest in the future are likely success factors here. Some maturity and life experience doesn't hurt either. Nervous? Work on it and give it time. Be optimistic and never give up. Always get back on your feet after falling and make sure you learn from it. Be a man. Don't be fooled / "emasculated" / whatever by modern gender equity (which IMO is important), the focus on "modern" and "soft" men and so on. My impression is that many women today like relatively masculine guys, but that might just be me.

Then again, people can be quite different. I for one don't think I'd want to live without women. Some of them are just wonderful. And yeah, giving and receiving head with some skill and devotion is important, IMHO.
Post edited October 31, 2013 by Primate
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valdaintheking: Im sorry for anyone that you know, but women just don't make sense for the most part.

You literally can't win if you just want to get a regular girlfriend. You have like everything stacked against you and here's why. 5 girls I went after and just wanted to get to know them and all acted REALLY strange behavior. One even asked me to get lunch then when I called her she not only avoided my calls, she refused to answer me on any email legitimate.

If a woman asks a guy to have sex with him 10/10s he will say yes unless she is not attractive or the guy is gay. If a guy asks a girl the same question- 9/10 she will say no.

I really can finally see why marriage numbers are dwindling, because relationships and normal behavior when around them just don't mesh as well as they do.\

People just aren't getting married anymore.

As soon as my misogynistic bud comes back from New York, we're going on a hell of a ride, heh.
the problem is that you're an alpha male trapped in a geeky beta loser's body.
Oh good. Our friend is back. :D
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fortune_p_dawg: just a touch of a 'I don't give a shit' attitude really helps. It creates a certain appealing mystique.

Hell, I'm married with a third kid on the way and some of this stuff STILL applies. This difference is that when you're married you have to make an effort to be mysterious; when you're single it should be effortless.
Don't give a shit, but care. I don't know if that makes any sense to you, but I've come to define myself as the kind of person in any case, and I think that most of my friends get it.
definitely not making sense, its just frustration
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AlKim: Don't give a shit, but care.
I'm not sure you've understood him correctly (don't know for sure if I have, for that matter). Of course one must care enough when it comes to relationships, but I think that a touch of "I don't give a shit" on top of that can help some people become more relaxed, for instance. I feel that "not giving too much of a shit" can help me relax and perform better in a number of circumstances. For me it's about keeping a balance. Perhaps the Yerkes-Dodson law can be used here.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yerkes%E2%80%93Dodson_law
Post edited October 31, 2013 by Primate
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Silverhawk170485: " I don't know if talking bullshit and being ignorant was a survival technique of female caveman. I have to google that. ;)
There was of course a sound dose of sarcasm in my answer. However, there have been some serious studies on that matter. Henri Laborit, in the 70’s, formulated interesting ideas on how our need for controlling our environment was still conditioned by our primal fears and how our need to assert dominance still relied on what our paleolithic ancestors learned the hard way. You can link that too with the idea behind the idea of a “collective brain” ( Aldous Huxley).

So, just imagine, Mr Caveman is coming back from a 3-day hunting party. He brings back a deer and has interesting ideas about what to do with the skin ( say something to keep him warm and dry when out hunting ) , with the meat (have a good dinner with a good roast for the family and dry and salt the rest to have field rations so he can stay out hunting longer ) and with the nerves ( a new bow would be wonderful). He needs to get more game if the family is to survive the winter. Only thing, he would really need new arrow heads, and maybe a knife as well. Maybe Mrs Cavewoman found a good stone in the river and has thought about bringing it back ? If only cavegrandfather hadn’t been eaten by a bear two winters ago, he would have chosen the best stone for that, the one with the purest sound and the least impurities. He would also have helped carrying the product of their hunt. But, well, his role is to find solutions for the clan and he will do so. Caveman Junior turns 6 next week. He will soon be able to assist…

Mrs Cavewoman remained in the cave, caring for the four cavechildren and for the old cavegrandmother. They collected berries and turnips and she has other ideas. The skin could make a nice bed on which to make cavechild five to seventeen with Mr Caveman for a start, and maybe keep cavegrandmother warm during the winter because she is now very old (about 35) , yet a stepmother is useful when one has to test the edibility of berries and mushrooms. As for the meat, she thinks a good roast for the family would be nice but she would like to offer a sacrifice to the god of the forest to keep them healthy. Also she would like to keep giving some food to that feline friend that lives with them because the kids love it. Of course, Mr Caveman needs food when he goes out for the next hunt, but he can eat the turnips can’t he ? Kids don’t like them and they’re too hard for their toothless grandmother. But Caveman eats everything and anything without complaining, he is a true warrior. As for the nerves, it’s about time. She needs wire to finish her new dress. And she has indeed found a beautiful firestone, with nice variable colour patterns that will be assorted to the wall paintings.. Mr Caveman will be surely able to craft useful domestic tools with it. Too bad it has too much impurities to get solid, sharp splinters out of it, but for a polishing stone, it’s all right.

I guess you see there is some potential for a long long discussion between them. Mr Caveman is action-minded and will start working his way, so Mrs Cavewomen has to argue, discuss, convince, seduce. She may even have to lie on the skin to demonstrate the validity of her point of view…